By Arden Y
Are you guys twins? Who’s older? Do you guys like the same stuff? Are you the same person?
These are just a few examples of questions that I am bombarded with on a daily basis. For as long as I can remember, strangers and friends alike have harassed my identical twin sister Alia and myself with questions and comments about twins.
It’s really annoying and it’s not like I pretend it doesn’t bother me when people ask.
Imagine growing up with someone who looks just like you. Don’t get me wrong, I love my sister, but being a twin has both good and bad parts about it. Ok, mostly bad, (sorry Alia but I know you feel the same way). Today I am finally ready to reveal stereotypes that have been bothering me for a long time.
Hopefully, all the people who think it’s “funny” to ask me the same questions over and over again will now get some actual answers (you know who you are).
Here are some questions people always ask me…
Are you guys twins? Ok, if you think someone’s a twin, don’t ask them, because the answer is most likely yes. I’m tired of people asking me this. So yes, the answer is yes.
Who’s older? This question always makes me uncomfortable. For some reason, our parents thought it would be a great idea to tell us we were both born at the same time. When I told people this, it often lead to awkward follow up questions… It wasn’t until 9th grade that my mom told me I was the younger one. That was a big burden lifted off my shoulders, let me tell you.
Are you the same person? Duh, no. Almost everyone I meet thinks that Alia and I are the same person just because we look and sound alike. They treat us like one person instead of two, but we both have completely different minds, think differently, and have different interests and hobbies, if you can actually believe that!
Are you guys in all the same classes? Heck no! I see Alia enough at home as it is. In 7th grade, we had four of the same classes. The teachers confused us and the class confused us too. I felt like I couldn’t be myself, and the only characteristic my classmates knew about me was that I was one of “the twins.” That’s why I can’t wait to go to separate colleges next year. I finally won’t have to worry about doing things and then being mistaken as her.
Did you guys ever pretend to be each other for April Fool’s Day? First off, that’s a terrible idea. She’s an honors French student! I can’t just walk into her classroom and pretend I’m her, I don’t know any French. Secondly, Alia and I go already go out of our way to make sure we wear different things every day, because for some reason our relatives give us matching clothes for holidays… If she wears a Star Wars shirt one day to school for example, I have to go out of the way not to wear one. Also, funny story: I used to never wear glasses because she did, and that caused me to not be able to see in class. Somebody should not have to go through that just because they were born a twin, something I obviously had no choice about!
I’ve been bashing my sister a lot here, so now I’m going to share what’s good about being a twin. While we have our own interests, we also share a lot of the same ones. This means that I have someone to talk to who likes a lot of the things that I do. Another thing is that we’ve been through the same experiences and we can trust each other with almost anything. She’s one of the only people who actually understands me, and although I don’t share all of my personal issues with her, I know that she will always be there if I ever need her.
Do you like being a twin? No, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Image: James and Oliver Phelps played the twins Fred and George Weasley respectively in the Harry Potter films.